This is a question that comes up a lot, especially among the younger readers of the series. As a lesbian, I think the choices become better, lol! I mean, I'd never in a million years even consider dating Harry, Ron, or many of the younger males. I'd probably go for Sirius, Lupin, Bill, Charlie, or one of the other usual heart throbs if I were straight.
But I'm not, so my choices are more difficult (I feel). I mean, look at all the fabulous women in the series: Tonks, Hermione, Fleur, Narcissa, and Luna!
Obviously I wouldn't ever date Ginny because...well, no one really knows what she's like. I mean, she jumps into the series loving Harry, then we learn little things of no real importance (like that she can do a great Bat Bogey Hex), and then she's all gaga over Harry again. Oh, boy. Can we say two-dimensional? And blah?
Tonks has always been a favorite of mine, and I love that she's so endearing and adorable with her klutziness. There's also something to be said about how she lost herself in love in the books. While that's romantic, beautiful, and all that, it's not necessarily something I'd want in someone I'd date. I'm looking for a much more independent and strong individual. While she normally is all those things, fawning over Lupin (again, while romantic, sweet, understandable, and interesting to read) was not an attractive trait for me.
Let's face it. I'd have no chance with Fleur even if she was a lesbian, so she's pretty much out. Bill got her because he was super hot and all that. While I think I'm pretty, I don't see the “hot” factor in myself, so no hope there.
I'm not sure about Narcissa. I love that she's so caring and compassionate in the end, but there's something off-putting about her in terms of my dating her. I can't quite put my finger on it. Perhaps it's her haughtiness...? I can't stand smugness, so that is probably a condemning factor. There seems to be something else nagging in the back of my mind saying “you wouldn't want to date her because _____”, but I can't think of it.
Ah, Luna! I love me some Luna. You can't say she's smug, conceited, or lacks independence and individuality. That's for sure! I don't know if I could handle going on “romantic getaways” to find the Crumple Horned Snorkack, though. Listening to all her “theories”, I'd probably snap too. So, maybe that relationship wold be short-lived. She does remind me of at least two of my ex-girlfriends (except for the conspiracy theories and Quibbler “news”), so there's no real denying that I would probably be attracted to her.
Hermione would make the most sense. I mean, let's examine for a moment how much I hate the Ron/Hermione and Harry/Hermione ships. I, personally, feel that neither of them deserves someone as great as Hermione. Does this, perhaps, mean that I've fostered secret feelings for Hermione myself? Well, probably not, but it does at least show that I have a great respect for her and recognize what a great catch she is. Given that we're both fairly brainy and reasonable, we'd probably get along well (I mean, if she can handle spending time with the idiots she's usually surrounded with, I'd probably be a breath of fresh air...), but could I handle her bossiness and need to be right all the time? What about her need to get credit for all her “rightness”? And then there's the almost obsessive bookishness. Don't get me wrong, I'm rather a bit of a bookworm myself, but she takes it to a whole new level. Her attitude did go through an adjustment as the series went on, so maybe I could date Hermione from DH (and beyond)...
But would we balance each other out? As much as I hate Ron, his stupidity did balance out with Hermione's intellect. I don't know if we're too much alike, Hermione and I, to stay together too long.
Overall, though, Hermione would be my top choice for a girlfriend.
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First, let me say that I am a woman who's been married to the same man for 20 years...having said that, I don't think gender should affect who we love. If you meet someone that you think you could truly love, why should you relegate them to the status of friend, and never lover based solely on gender? Chances at love are too few and far between to allow gender to be a determining factor. No one should ever have to pass on a chance at love. That out of the way, I would have to go out with Tonks at least a couple of times solely because of her hair - I love me some freaky standouts. On the subject of your hotness - you are hot. And that is taken directly from my husband, who came home while I was watching one of your vids and ask me "Who's the hottie". As for Cissy - perhaps it's because she has Draco? Some people, even if it's on an unconscious level, have trouble dating people who have kids, regardless. I personally think it's not a fear of responsibility, so much as a fear of the stress in the relationship that will follow the almost inevitable "You're not my Mommy/Daddy" that will most probably come after you try to discipline your partner's child. As for me - Snape, snape, snape - at least until I found out about Lily - I wouldn't want to compete with a memory that strong.
ReplyDeleteSexual orientation isn't about excluding people from our dating pool. It's simply about who one is attracted to, whether it's emotionally or physically. While I've dated men, and sometimes (though rarely) find myself emotionally attracted to men, I cannot ever see myself dating a man again because of the sexual component of the relationship...it would be completely nonexistent because I find nothing physically attractive about the male form. I appreciate it's beauty, but that's it. If that ever changed, or I was so emotionally attracted to a man that I could somehow accept the fact that he was a man and "force" myself to attempt a sexual relationship, I might, but that would be an extreme circumstance.
ReplyDeleteI don't expect a lot of people who fall near the middle of the Kinsey Scale to understand the perspective of those of us on the outsides, though.
Actually, I do kind of fall outside that scale. I have a skewed perception, I think, because my relationship with my husband is purely emotional - Has never been sexual. I guess, by definition I would be asexual. I find neither gender 'sexually' attractive. I tried it for many years because I did desire children. But even the overwhelming desire to mother a child could not sustain the physical aspect. I've been celibate for over six years now - but I am truly in love with my husband. I love him more today than I did the day I married him, but it has never been a physical love - even when we had a physical relationship. Understanding my own shortcomings in that aspect I told him years ago that he was free to seek out an extra-marital physical relationship, that I would not begrudge him what so many feel as necessary. He has chosen not to.
ReplyDeleteWhen I said what I said I did not mean to insinuate that you excluded people, it was said in defense of anyone who chooses to live their life with someone else, that they should have the right to do so regardless of gender. I do understand that for most people a relationship that might someday involve permanence, or marriage would require both and emotional and a sexual attraction. I only meant that others shouldn't judge that relationship based on gender. I'm sorry for my poor wording.